We give You all the glory, we give all honour 2x we give You adoration, we give You all the honour 2x. Praise God, Alleluia, Praise God, Amen 2x. We are saying Thank You Jesus, Thank You my God 2x for Your goodness, we say Thank You (Thank You my Lord), for Your kindness, we say Thank You (Thank You my lord).

Heavenly Father, we come with a heart full of thanks, to reverence and appreciate You for Your goodness and kindness over all that You have made. Thank You for blessing us and helping us daily to conform to what You have made us to be. Thank You for every home in the World which is makes up of different families. Thank You for upholding us in Your love that constant.

Beloveth, are you thanking God for Your family? Are you happy that you belong to one? Is possible you are a parent, are you thanking God daily for your home that you are still together under one roof call home.

It is so important that we Thank God for our families even if not not your idea of an ideal home. Why? because in thanking Him you will remind Him of your dream about what an idea home should be, than ask for His help to bring it to past (Phil4:6-7).

We celebrated mothers’ day in my local church on Sunday tagged “Woman of Wisdom” Prov 14:1(Please open your bible to read it). So much was said to mothers. If you have read the passage what did it say? Let go to Eph 5:21-30 (also read). What did it say? Let’s open to Titus 2:4-5, what did you understand?

However, this is my taking in all that was said, considering what is going on in the world of today, so many woman tagged “wise” are cave in under pressures of some overbearing husbands who nag and weep as if they are babies.

They cry wolves even when there is none round the corner, some go as far as making sure that nothing works even in their own home. Some gest involve in some ungodly acts that is not befitting to be said of a Christian brother (even if he is not a husband).

It hurts to see a woman suffer under an institution call marriage. And to make it worst you hear the man sing “submission” as if it is a passport to heaven.

Now let us consider the Eph 5:21 let read it together, what did it say “submit to one another” and why must you do so “out of reverence for Christ”. Then it went further to say how that submission should be “wives submit to husband as unto the Lord . for a husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church… submit to your husband in everything” and for the husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave his life for her to make here Holy and clean,,,,

The truth here is that both has a role to play for a successful family to exist. Why must we go according to the word of God? because “we are members of His body”

It means that families are there because we to carry on the work of our family together. A man should not be maltreating the wife because he is the head of the family, likewise a wife must be submissive to her own husband even if he is a store keeper and you are the managing director of your company. See to it that when you come into your home you as the wife must play your role likewise the man too.

The economic conditions of today is quite challenging and the demands of good education for our children all these poses a big challenge to husband and wife.

But the goodnews is that a man and woman who fears the Lord will always survive. Both will see God as they sufficiency not your husband nor your wife.

Let our pulpit be a place of truth not a place to establish norms that is not in the bible. Let it be a place where our men will get the clear understanding of what God wants from them and not a place to cover up the truth and allow evil to be flourishing in our society

How can a Christian brother be treating his wife with much harshness and brutality and the sister stay because it will be unheard of if she leaves the marriage.

So dear sisters that is where the Prov 14:1 comes in. You must run and get the necessary wisdom peculiar to your home and apply it. Our older women who are still in marriage will agree with what I am saying here. You must make you own work for you, whatever it will take. You must be able to sacrifice so much to see that your children destinies are establish not destroy or aborted.

The home like a garden must varieties to offer, our teaching for today is from a man who got it right and make it work. He leads while the wife follow as it should be. We also have the Solomon’s message on love to guide us how our marriage should be. Come let’s go:

Why Our Marriage Works

This morning I crept back into the bedroom to kiss my wife good-bye before catching an early flight out to Malaysia.

Groggily she muttered, “I forgot to pack your tiesWes (our son) called last nightDo you have handkerchiefs?” A hug, a kiss – and out the door to the airport… savoring that warm sense of belonging.

This is my woman and I am her man.

Here are five good reasons why our marriage works:

  1. We take time to cultivate a close walk with Christ, thereby helping to ensure the fact that we share a common vision and mission.

Let us draw near [to God] with a sincere heart in full assurance of faithMayGodgive you a spirit of unity as you follow Christ Jesus… “ (Hebrews 10:22a; Romans 15:5a)

  1. We respect each other in our differences; we take each other seriously.

There are different kinds of giftsministries(and) effects, but the same God works all of them in all men.” (1 Corinthians 12:4-6)

  1. We choose to identify and attack our problems rather than each other.

Let all be harmonious, sympathetic, brotherly, kindhearted, and humble in spirit; not returning evil for evil, or insult for insult, but giving a blessing instead… ” (1 Peter 3:8, 9a)

  1. We laugh a lot, taking time to play and have fun together.

A joyful heart makes a cheerful face, but when the heart is sad, the spirit is broken.” (Proverbs 15:13)

  1. I lead and she follows.

Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church… ” (Ephesians 5:22a)

Ruth has hung in there with me these 33 years, through the easy and tough times, clearly understanding the term “helpmate“. (Genesis 2:18) We most likely are in the 4th quarter of our lives now. I understand we are now viewed as “Senior Citizens“. When I return home in a few days, we’ll probably spend the evening playing Scrabble and tennis, and then relax around an old movie. Weve not had better days… (adapted from FOTM)

 Beloved, did you notice what the author said they cultivate their walk in Christ together, they respect each other, they attack the problem and not themselves, they take out time to play and have fun together, then he leads and the wife have no option than to follow.

We have cases where a man does not even know where to go or to lead and God provided him with a woman with such strength, instead of thanking God for such a gift, he will fight with everything in him to destroy it and everybody including the children will be hurting. May God help our homes in Jesus Name!

Let’s go on:

“I am come into my garden, my sister, my spouse.” Song 5:1

The heart of the believer is Christ’s garden. He bought it with His precious blood, and He enters it and claims it as His own. A garden implies separation. It is not the open common; it is not a wilderness; it is walled around, or hedged in. Would that we could see the wall of separation between the church and the world made broader and stronger.

It makes one sad to hear Christians saying, “Well, there is no harm in this; there is no harm in that,” thus getting as near to the world as possible. Grace is at a low ebb in that soul which can even raise the question of how far it may go in worldly conformity. A garden is a place of beauty, it far surpasses the wild uncultivated lands.

The genuine Christian must seek to be more excellent in his life than the best moralist, because Christ’s garden ought to produce the best flowers in all the world. Even the best is poor compared with Christ’s deservings; let us not put Him off with withering and dwarf plants. The rarest, richest, choicest lilies and roses ought to bloom in the place which Jesus calls His own.

The garden is a place of growth. The saints are not to remain undeveloped, always mere buds and blossoms. We should grow in grace, and in the knowledge of our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ. Growth should be rapid where Jesus is the Husbandman, and the Holy Spirit the dew from above. A garden is a place of retirement. So the Lord Jesus Christ would have us reserve our souls as a place in which He can manifest Himself, as He doth not unto the world.

O that Christians were more retired, that they kept their hearts more closely shut up for Christ! We often worry and trouble ourselves, like Martha, with much serving, so that we have not the room for Christ that Mary had, and do not sit at His feet as we should. The Lord grant the sweet showers of His grace to water His garden this day.

A woman of wisdom must take the role of Christ in salvation to make her marriage work if you are in such a hellish marriage (read Phil 2:5-8). Though you are to function as members of Christ body, do not cling on equality with him. When you have played your role very well, there is a reward for you as it were for Christ (vs 9-11; 1Pet 3:3-6).

Never give up virtuous woman, the Lord will honour you, I decree the promise in Isa 65: 22-24 into your life in Jesus Name.

Finally, we are not exempting the excesses of some woman but we are pleading to our brothers to help these women to come to Christ. Love them as you were commanded (Col 3:19), I believe that no one distaste love even an animal recognize a friend from a foe. Let us treat our spouse as good gardener takes care of his garden. Praise God.

To all our women and great men behind them we say “overcome (conquer) for the Lord” You will not despair, the grace to abound unto every good work receive in Jesus Name! Conquer on your knees. Let Jesus be your Rock and your refuge. Make Him the Head of your home and you will see amazing things happening all around you.

Remain ever blessed

 

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IFEOMA OHONDU is the founder of the MattersoftheHeart foundation, a platform where issues affecting our everyday life are discussed and where necessary proffer solution. She is part of the end time army, who will not break their rank to fulfill the urgent call of God upon her life by declaring His word to the helpless, the doubting, the comfortless and the dying world. The world will experience great restoration and healing in the Word of God through her ministration. She is a voice to emphasize key spiritual truth about Faith, Healing and Encouragement.